Separation anxiety for toddlers and school going children is real! It is not attention seeking or a tantrum show. With a bit of love, planning and support this transition will essay smoothly.
Reasons for separation anxiety :
- Recovering from an illness.
- Lack of assurance for safety.
- Inconsistent routine or adding a new routine
e.g. new meal, relocation or sleep hours.
- Poor sleep, weather conditions or a new caregiver.
- New sibling/baby in the house.
- Inexperienced caregiver or lack of instructions to them.
- An exhausted parent.
How to deal with #separationanxiety?
1.Instruct the care giver and familiarize the person to your child at least a month before you begin a new schedule. Thus, the child sees the caregiver as a support system in your house. This gradual separation also eases your tension.
2.Routine and patience is important.
3.Avoid multitasking when you are with your child. This promotes security.
4.Weaning from breastmilk also needs proper plan and balanced nutrition is essential so that the child is not deprived of strength.
5.Address your own anxiety level as there could be times you may feel a tinge of guilt. Outsource chores, add some me-time to have some quality life.
6.Comfort objects are essential e.g. a toy, a blankie or even a favourite story book.
7.Goodbye to be said once and slowly it will work out.
8.During illness your child may need more attention so do seek a hybrid mode at your workplace or ask for help from your support system.
9.In case the older sibling is overwhelmed or ignored due to the arrival of a newborn, you will need to have a plan to have some alone time with him/her.
10.At all times, talk to your child, read them stories and eat together as a #family.
Children get used to a routine as soon as they feel #safe and assured. Good luck, If you need a #counsellingconsultation, do DM.
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